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The best way to see if we're the dating site for you is to try us out for free. The form up ☝️there only takes a moment to complete and is completely free. If you're not ready for that, then browse some of our current Essex based members here. We've collected a selection of our users to make it easier for you to see who you could be meeting and what they are interested in.

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So now you don't have to. You're not alone in not wanting to play the dating game, or in wanting to get tied up in serious long-term relationships. You're not unusual in sometimes just wanting to grab someone and have an uncomplicated night (or lunchtime, or whenever) with someone who's also just there for the sex. So let's be honest about it. My Bed or Yours is just what you need to find those people, securely and safely, whether you're looking around in Essex, or spreading your net wider across UK, because why not?

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My Bed Or Yours Members Around Essex
Im 28 years old, living in the Chelmsford region. Female 28 from Chelmsford, UK

I'm 28 years old, living in the Chelmsford region.
I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 19 and 90.


Straight

Looking for, ages 19-90. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, BDSM, Erotic Fiction, Sex Toys, Sub

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NOT 22 BUT 38!!!! Sweet Dominate woman, ready to explore those fantasies in your.. Female 23 from Colchester, UK

Available for threesome with couples too. Don't come to me with false desire. Serious business only


Bisexual

Looking for, ages 40-90. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, BDSM, Dom, Fetish, Roleplay

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Hi me and my bf would like to do an MMF combination Couple 30, 34 from Woodham Ferrers, UK

A guy who takes care of himself and is confident and open minded I havent done this b4 so a bit nervous but has always been my fantasy to be with 2 guys


Straight, Straight

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Im stella and I love meeting new people! Female 25 from Canvey, UK

I'm from canvey,UK  and people say I'm friendly So let's talk xx


Straight

Looking for, ages 18-84. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Age play, BDSM, Erotic Fiction, Fetish

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Im a sado submissive; primarily a submissive but can switch to sadism. I like b.. Female 43 from Chelmsford, UK

I like a strong man that knows what he's doing in bed with a great imagination. He's got a good body, strength and looks to match. He is opinionated and takes thd lead. He is good company, knowledgeable and humorous.


Straight

Looking for, ages 33-53. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Anal, BDSM, Bondage, Bukkake, Dirty Talk, Dom, Edging, Fetish, Impact Play, Lingerie, Oral, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Games, Sex Talk, Sub, Voyeurism

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New here and to all this so seeing what it’s all about Female 50 from Southend-on-sea, UK

I love holidays in the sun and being by the sea makes me happy


Straight

Looking for, ages 39-59. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Couples, Discreet Meets

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Just here for the fun. Probably would go with whatever outcome this platform may.. Female 30 from Canvey Island, UK

I'm a straight forward person, and as a matter of fact, a straight forward person is also expected to come my way.


Straight

Looking for, ages 50-80. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests,

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I’m very horny and clingy I have a high sex drive and I will love to meet someon.. Female 40 from Benfleet, UK

I warm cool bed with enough cuddling and snuggling when the night gets near


Straight

Looking for, ages 50-85. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Anal, BDSM, Fetish, Oral, Outdoor Fun, Sub

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Im looking for something ongoing and hopes it becomes something serious and per.. Female 51 from Chelmsford, UK

I'm Mistress Eliza and I'm looking for a lil lost kinky sub to train to become that perfect sissy slut for me


Straight

Looking for, ages 60-90. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, BDSM, Cuckold, Dom, Pegging, Roleplay, Sex Toys

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I am looking for a serious relationship involve honesty, trust, respect and open.. Female 65 from Southend-on-sea, UK

A partner who is open-minded and conscientious shows us that they are willing to work hard to see our perspective and put effort into a relationship, showing us that we matter and are accepted for who we are. With someone who is emotionally stable, we can feel safe.


Straight

Looking for, ages 65-90. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Age Gap, Dirty Talk, Outdoor Fun, Sex Games, Sex Talk, Sexual Massage

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Hello, I’m a happy go lucky 55 year old lady, I’m looking for a dom to try new .. Female 56 from Great Burstead, UK

I love porn, toys and watching people enjoying and having sex .


Straight

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I’m a dom looking for subI always like to be in control Female 24 from Chelmsford, UK

I'm 24 years old, living in the Chelmsford region.
I'm interested in meeting a transgender person or a man aged between 18 and 80.


Straight

Looking for, ages 18-80. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, BDSM, Cuckold, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Toys

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am MISTRESS Dominatrix, Scottish born & bred . I can be softly spoken, kind & se.. Female 37 from Chelmsford, UK

mistress love to explore with her loyal sub....this bdsm sexual lifestyle  discreetly


Straight

Looking for, ages 50-65. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Age play, BDSM, Cuckold, Discreet Meets, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Toys

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Krausemarie386 at geemale . Com txt me let’s get to know more about each other Female 42 from Braintree, UK

I'm 42 years old, living in the Braintree region.
I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 64 and 99.


Straight

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I am an attentive lover, always looking to satisfy all of my partner’s needs, so.. Female 27 from Southend-on-sea, UK

I'm 27 years old, living in the Southend-on-sea region.
I'm interested in meeting a couple or a man aged between 18 and 99.


Straight

Looking for, ages 18-90. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Age play, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Roleplay, Sub

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Heyyyy interested in new things, Female 39 from Southend-on-sea, UK

I'm 39 years old, living in the Southend-on-sea region.
I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 30 and 50.


Straight

Looking for, ages 30-50. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Dom, Sex Toys, Sub

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Genuine Married Woman x x x x x x xx x x x x x x x x x Couple 43, 38 from Romford, UK

Attractive and a concupiscent 39yo married woman, with husband approval seeks person/s for strictly discreet nsa meet up and stimulating fun. When possible, with permission and under no obligation, husband would like to come along and watch.

A slim size 10, I am adventurous, imaginative, energetic and up for most things as long as it is within health and safety std. I've an unashamedly insatiable but healthy desire and like to please in a submissively sort of way. In other words and to put it plainly..I love and enjoy sex.

The other demure traits of me is that I am an easy and outgoing person with a warm and friendly personality and a witty sense of humour.

I am married with a family and work full time. Any arrangement is not going to be easy and it MUST and has to suit me..but it will be worth it (wink, wink). Therefore, long journeys and distances and elaborate planning  will not be suitable.

NO DICK PICTURES PLEASE!!
I DO NOT REPLY TO AUTOMATED MESSAGES.

Thanks.


Straight, Bisexual

Looking for, ages 18-50. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, BDSM, Couples, Cuckold, Discreet Meets, Full Swap, Outdoor Fun, Threesomes

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Hi Dominant Sadist Woman Cougar living near Romford Essex UK. Female 53 from Romford, UK

I'm 53 years old, living in the Romford region.
I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 25 and 37.


Straight

Looking for, ages 25-37. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Age Gap, BDSM, Leather / Latex, S&M

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Hello Just looking for sum safe fun sexual encounters x Female 47 from Dagenham, UK

BBW. 5ft4. Lovely legs.  Beautiful face. Beautiful inside n out. Looking for hook ups. With black or white men


Straight

Looking for, ages 20-72. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Anal, BBW / BHM, Bondage, Curves, Dirty Talk, Discreet Meets, Group Sex, Leather / Latex, Lingerie, Mature, MILF, Oral, Roleplay, Sex Talk, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage, Sub

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Looking for a threesome in Southend. Nice big cock and regular sex Female 41 from Southend-on-sea, UK

Good looking men big cocks love anal sex oral sex virginal sex


Straight

Looking for, ages 50-65. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Couples, Threesomes

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looking for fun explore new things Female 30 from Bishops Strotford, UK

massages touch and exploring new things ! excitment !


Straight

Looking for, ages 21-41. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Group Sex, Roleplay, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage, Threesomes

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Well Hello . Fabulous couple looking for safe sexual playtimes with couples fe.. Couple 47, 38 from Dagenham, UK

I'm Kaz. I'm white age 40 +. My fellas names Malick he's black he's  aged 30+.
We would love to find a couple to explore.
Looking for some safe fun sexual experiences. If u fancy a meet up with us. Get in touch please xxxx


Straight, Straight

Looking for, ages 26-68. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Anal, BBW / BHM, Bondage, Couples, Curves, Dirty Talk, Discreet Meets, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Group Sex, Leather / Latex, Lingerie, Mature, MILF, Oral, Outdoor Fun, Roleplay, Sex Games, Sex Talk, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage, Sub, Threesomes

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Laid back fun and easy loving .... Female 51 from Canvey Island, UK

Seek to explore as much kink as I. Can and with my knowledge of as mistress  lead an adventurous life


Straight

Looking for, ages 42-90. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Anal, BBW / BHM, BDSM, Bukkake, Couples, Cuckold, Dirty Talk, Discreet Meets, Erotic Fiction, Exhibitionism, Feet, LGBTQIA+, Oral, Roleplay, Sexual Massage, Threesomes

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Limited experience looking for next steps with experienced Dom. Interested more .. Female 57 from Chelmsford, UK

Inexperienced but having recently found myself back on the dating scene, have rediscovered submissive tendencies which have been buried for some years. Sorry but not interested in someone already in a committed relationship however passionless it might be x


Straight

Looking for, ages 47-61. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, BDSM, Erotic Fiction, Roleplay, Sub

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Im 52 years old, living in the Rayleigh region. Female 52 from Rayleigh, UK

I'm 52 years old, living in the Rayleigh region.
I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 36 and 77.


Straight

Looking for, ages 36-77. A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging Interests, Webcam

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Active member locations

  • Witham /
  • Maldon /
  • Woodham Ferrers /
  • Kelvedon /
  • Billericay /
  • Tiptree /
  • Latchingdon /
  • Danbury /
  • Chelmsford /
  • Stock /
  • Chelmsford /
  • Braintree /

Married UK members welcome

Introducing other people or couples into your sexual relationship is a great way to add some additional spice to a flagging sex-life. Many of our members are couples who enjoy partner swapping or swinging and MyBedOrYours UK is a great way to meet other people with the same outlook on life as yourself. Other members are married or in an un-fulfilling relationship and are looking for some discreet extra marital excitement or casual encounters, this is fine but we do ask our married members to be clear about their relationship status to avoid any confusion.

Genuine sex contacts in Essex

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